My own, in this case. My commitment to diversity, pluralism, tolerance and so on did not come with me from birth. Yes, I had a remarkably tolerant and curious maternal grandfather, and that helped, but well into my twenties I was very conservative and sometimes racist and very dubious about homosexuality, the last being quite inconvenient really. Life, experience, and reading (in that order) wrought the changes you see today. I am in my sixties now and still a work in progress. I believe that is how it ought to be as well.
When twenty years ago I finally “came out” there were aspects of the gay world, and associated worlds as the picture is far more complex, that did not fit me. Take drag and effeminacy for example: I had a problem with that, because I was not thus inclined myself, and still am not. Equally, the various patterns of hyper-masculinity one finds in parts of the gay world did not/do not attract me either. I just want to be me, I guess, but that implies extending the same privilege to others, doesn’t it?
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